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Gender: F
Age: 21
Married:
N State: missouri
Country: usa
Experience...
I just found out I had herpes yesterday and I`m only 21. I am so upset, ashamed, embarrassed, and mortified. I want to hide in a corner and just die, but I keep telling myself it will get better. I was with this man on and off for five years. I believe when we had unprotected sex is when he gave it to me. I trusted him and than to have this happen is definently an eye opener. Scary! At this point I don`t know what to do or who to talk to. My mom is mad at me, I`m scared to tell my friends, and well the guy is convinced it wasn`t him. Ahhh I just need some support! =-( [46803]

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Gender: F
Age: 36
Married: Y
State: Mt.
Country: US
Experience...
My ex boyfriend and i had anal intercourse without using protection.He gave me herpes. My first breakout started inside my anal cavity then spread to the outside and inside of my vagina. It lasted for over a month. The moral of this story is-not even once. Practice safe sex everytime. The condom is your best defence and you should use it for everthing. Oral,vaginal,and anal intercourse. [46793]

Gender: F
Age: 27
Married: N
Country: Canada
Experience...
My situation is different from any other I`ve read. I contracted HSV-1 from a partner who had a canker sore in his mouth....which he didnt notice until the next day. He performed oral sex and the following day I noticed something wasnt right and then the 2nd day i had about 5 sores on my genitals. The sores were not blisters but just like a canker sore you would get in your mouth. I went to the doctor and the took swabs and was diagnosed with HSV-1. I have never had an outbreak since and have had unprotected sex with the same partner numerous times. Its has been over 3 years since I contracted the disease, I am wondering if I even have it or if they can test me for it somehow to make sure. Maybe I`m just lucky??? [46792]

Gender: F
Age: 43
Married: N
State: Texas
Experience...
I contracted herpes during my first sexual encounter so I have had it my entire adult life. I successfully got pregnant at 21 and delivered my child vaginally without any problem. In fact, I never once had an outbreak while pregnant. My husband did not contract herpes for several years into our marriage. As time went by, I had fewer and fewer outbreaks and they were less severe and healed rapidly. I have gone several years without an outbreak. After my divorce, I was careful about my sexual activities and lived with one man for over a year who never contracted herpes although we always had unprotected sex. I have become adept at recognizing the signs of an outbreak and avoiding sex when it occurs. Oddly, my sores have typically always occurred on my upper pelvic bone area, not my vaginal area (although i have had a few there). It is not the end of the world to live with this disease. It is manageable. The worst issue is confessing the truth to your partner!! Someone without herpes usually has a very freaked-out view of it and what it involves!! [46788]

Gender: F
Age: 38
Married: N
State: BC
Country: Canada
Experience...
It has affected my life completely. I have fears of intimacy, pregnancy (I have no children). I break out in the virus all over my face in the sun, in the cold, under stress, it basically runs my life. I am scared to have intercourse in case I break out. I cannot have a relationship. [46787]

Gender:F
Age: 51
Married: N
State: GA
Country: U.S.
Experience...
My boyfriend gave me herpes, but claims he didn`t know he had it. We had been tested for everything else, so this was quite a shock. Now I don`t believe that he didn`t know...he has since moved on to a new girlfriend and I don`t think he is being honest with her, either. [46778]

Gender:M
Age: 26
Married: N
State: New York
Country: Wayne
Experience...
The last girl friend i had i found out she was cheating on me. So i went and had a general STD test done cuz i was freaking out. It came back negative, about 6 months later i noticed that i had these little bumps on my penis and they just itched a lot, so i went to the doctors had a blood draw done and the test came back negative so i was super excited. Well its been a year since then and I`ve had no sexual partners. Well i got those little bumps again, and they drew more blood (for some reason my bumps never turn into ulcers so they can`t do a culture) well any who the test came back positive. There`s this girl that i really like and idk how to tell her and im kinda stressing out about it. [46772]

Gender: F
Age: 28
Married: N
State: Minnesota
Country: USA
Experience...
I tend to get sores on other parts of my body. About once a year I will get a bad outbreak in an odd area such as my wrist or on my legs. These large outbreaks take the longest to heal and I don`t know why I get them in these odd places to begin with. I never have an outbreak in the same area twice in a row. I think that it is odd, but I deal with it and make sure everything is properly bandaged so no one else comes into contact with the sores. [46771]

Gender: F
Age: 27
Married: N
State: NY
Country: United States
Experience...
I had contracted herpes type 2 having sex with a guy once, 3 years ago. Either he knew he had it and didn`t tell me or he didn`t know he had it. At first it was extremely uncomfortable for the first few months. The outbreaks were very uncomfortable and painful. It wasn`t until 6 months after I had it that I decided to get tested to reaffirm what I thought I had. Once I got the results, and got confirmation that I did have herpes, my doctor was able to give me a prescription of Valtrex. Since I have been on this medication I have had no symptoms, however the the most difficult part is the emotional aspect. It is difficult being single and having the virus. Over the past few years I have been so ashamed that I`ve ended relationships before it got too physical afraid to have the conversation. Since I`ve had the virus I`ve only told 2 people I dated, the others I ended it before getting the chance to take that next step. One didn`t want to take the risk, which I understand, and the other had it himself. It didn`t work out with the guy who had it. He ended up being abusive and cheated on me. I still find it hard to talk about it with someone I`m dating, but I am trying to deal with it and accept it, as I will have to learn to live with this for the rest of my life. I have to accept that herpes doesn`t mean it`s the end of my love life, and I have to have faith that I will someday meet someone who will not only be able to deal with it but love me despite it. Reading some of these stories, of people who have found someone with their condition has given me that hope, and I will just have to have the patience and faith that it will someday happen for me too. [46763]

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Gender: F
Age: 16
Married: N
State: co
Experience...
When i was 13, i had never done more than kiss a boy. i did have a boyfriend of five months. but again no more than kissing. one day, i noticed something... odd going on. i did not want to tell anyone because i felt awkward talking about my issues. thats personal you know? after about three weeks its progressively got to the point i couldn`t go to the bathroom. i didn`t go for three days. eventually i broke down and told my mom. shes a trauma nurse, so of course she knew exactly what it was. we went to the ER and i was diagnosed with type two. three years later... i still have no idea how i got it... even though simply knowing i have it is hard, Ive learned to live with it. recently i lost my virginity after 11 months. of course i told him first, months before. it was harder to say than i thought... but he was completely amazing about it. he accepted me for who i was and we had a happy honest relationship after that. remember, honesty is key but careful who you trust.. [46758]

Gender: F
Age: 22
Married: N
State: CA
Country: USA
Experience...
I just found out I had genital herpes 2 weeks ago. All I want to do is hide in the corner and cry as the world passes me by. I usually have an optimistic view on challenges but this one seems to be so overwhelming. I was in love in a 4+ year relationship and got my heartbroken. The next few months I became more permiscuous, having a few new partners, trying to subdue the pain, and this is where I`m ending up, feeling more alone than ever. My greatest fear. I`m so embarrassed and ashamed. Never thought it would happen to me, I thought I could just take some pills and it would disappear. But no, this is forever now. I believe I contracted it from someone who didn`t know. He was alot older so I trusted him more easily than I should have. I had a bad feeling, like I almost knew. It has already been a very physically painful experience. Probably the most pain I`ve ever felt in my life. From fever to body ache to sharp pain, itchy open soars. The virus is already a huge issue in itself, but the social stigma associated with it is going to be a battle in itself. I am just trying to be patient, and take this as a humbling life perspective changing experience. I hope/pray those I encounter will be understanding. I just wanted to thank all of you who posted your experience as well, it has helped tremendously reading your stories and learning as well. [46753]

Gender: F
Age: 42
Married: N
State: ga
Country: united states
Experience...

I feel that I will never have a husband or a boyfriend because of this desease I`m really ashamed to talk about it to anyone. [46743]

Gender: M
Age: 29
Married: N
State: NC
Country: USA
Experience...
I did sex once im my life and i discorved that i got herpes type 1, but i didn`t have any symptomes of it. Only blood analysis descorved that. [46740]

Gender: F
Age: 23v Married: N
State: wa
Experience...
Ok so I was just diagnosed 4 days ago with Type 1 and Type 2. I haven`t noticed any signs of outbreak and have had a few sexual partners within the last few years and amn not sure how i contracted it. i am scared, lonley and most of all afraid of being alone. i have been in three horrible long term relationships, and never yet met a man i could even think of marrying, and now this happens to me :( I have what i thought was a hemorrhoid, but after reading i am thinking maybe it is herpes because it goes away and comes back and i hear you can mistake herpes for a hemhorroid. i am scared because if so, how many people have i gave it to ??...... [46739]

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Gender: F
Married: N
State: MN
Country: USA
Experience...
HSV-1 on Breasts and Nipples I found out I have HSV-1 after having a culture done at the doctor, from sores on my breast and both nipples. I have never had a cold sore in my life, nor did any of my past partners, or the current partner (which I believe is where I got it). He was kissing/sucking by nipples a LOT more rough than usual one day (we liked it, so it wasn`t a bad experience) and my nipples felt extremely sore after wards, so much so that I didn`t want anything to touch them, although he insisted he could use his tongue so lightly that it wouldn`t hurt, and that was actually true for a few moments. I had people be rough on my nipples in the past, so much that I wouldn`t want anything touching them, but just always brushed it off as "ooh, that was naughty, you were so rough with me", waited a day or so for the soreness to go away and was sexually active again. So neither of us really thought much of that, but I knew that my nipples were way more sore than any other previous "rough" times. A few days later, maybe like 3-5, I noticed a circular scab on my breast about an inch above the pink area of my nipple. It had almost a light green/pastel green to it, and I thought maybe it was a zit - boil thing. I would sometimes get white heads on my chest and actual nipples, just like the kind on my face, and would pop them without question since they were gross. I tried squeezing - popping this scab, but it was more flat, and didn`t really act like a zit at all when I started touching it. I ended up peeling the scab off and it left a red, shallow crater. I dismissed it and when on with the day, wondering what the heck it was. The next day, I noticed a dark burgundy, almost black circular scab on my nipple on the same breast as I was putting on my bra in the mirror. I was like "what the hell is that?" and noticed a 3rd scab on my other nipple as I started looking more carefully. I couldn`t believe I hadn`t noticed them before, they just seemed to show up. My nipples were very sore and zinged, almost constantly and I had times often throughout the day of painful "electric" zing-ache feelings in my actual breasts. My nipples were pretty much constantly tingling - zinging painfully. Thinking back I had a few minor flu-like symptoms like headache and icky feeling, but was still able to do everything and go out like normal for the most part. I asked my friend if she ever had anything like this, saying "scabs on your nipples" and she had no idea, thought I was crazy. I went to my mom`s a couple days later, after the scabs weren`t going away or changing, and the 1st scab (that I peeled off initially) was weeping fluid/not healing like I thought it would, and about 6 very small other circular sores started forming next to it. Those smaller sores were yellow - cream colored and looked more like they were filled with a pus that would come out, rather than a scab. All the sores were also very itchy. I showed her the one on my breast only, embarrassed to show the ones on my nipples, and she thought immediately that I better go to the doctor. We discussed what it might be and both concluded I was probably having a recurrent episode of shingles (herpes zoster - chicken pox) that I first got a year ago. It made sense, I was super stressed out, and had the same "electric - zinging" pain along with the same type of sores. Although, the sores I had with shingles were not as perfectly circular as the ones now, but were very irregular and all of them had their own look to them. Some were craters, some were bubbly - raised and filled with fluid, and the shapes varied from ovals to the suit of clubs to a huge blister filled with so much fluid it was the size of a raisin, and eventually turned into a dark red scab before falling off. I had the shingles on my forehead - eye area and scalp. Back to the HSV--I also noticed that there were sores on my bikini line, where the sides of my underwear are, that I originally thought were ingrown hairs from shaving, but had now started mirroring the same characteristics as the sores on my breast (swollen, dark crater-like scabs with a light green center, and the side of my groin where the sores are was very swollen)--I had tried to pop those and get any fluid out of those too (like the white heads) before I knew what was going on, and may have spread the infection there. I thought I might have had a staph infection too--that I could have spread it with my tweezers which I use on both around my nipples and my bikini line. I was freaking out in any case. When I went to the doctor, saying I think I have shingles, she said she didn`t think it was that, asked me if me or my boyfriend have Herpes Simplex or get cold sores, I said no, not to either of our knowledge. She did a culture by rubbing a q-tip on the sores themselves (which was not so bad on one of the sores, but very painful on the other ones). 3 days later the results came back positive for HSV-1. I had already started taking Valtrex per my doctor`s recommendation the next day, before I knew it was HSV-1. The doctor said it would be a good precaution because it probably was HSV, and if it was shingles, the Valtrex would help that too (I took that for my shingles also). I also went to my acupuncturist (my first choice for health care) and got herbs (in pill form) and a tea to make to apply to the sores themselves with a cotton ball to help heal them externally. The acupuncture session helped too, and was good for helping me relax, I felt better just by doing that--mentally it`s so good for relaxation. Right now I still have the sores, and am doing research on HSV. I can tell the sores are going away (it`s been about 8 days since I first noticed the first scab)--the 1st sore with the other small ones around it is seeming to dry up and the pink - redness of the area of skin around it (and the others) is starting to become less severe. My biggest problem right now is really the mental issues I`m having with myself, and the problems it`s caused with my boyfriend. I told him it might be HSV after seeing the doctor and basically implied that he`s the one who gave it to me (which seems the most likely, but technically can`t be proven [?] )and he got extremely upset, understandably so. He`s going to get tested for HSV to see if he has it, and I s`pose if he doesn`t then we`ll know either it`s not showing up on the test, or I got it from a previous partner. But if I got it from a previous partner, why would I have an outbreak on my nipples? I guess if it was the initial site of infection whenever it first happened, and I was infected with the virus, I may not have ever shown symptoms/had sores until now, a time when I`m incredibly stressed out (partly with my bf), but I guess I`m not sure, and that`s why I`m hoping to find out answers by reading others` experiences/talking to doctors. Although, doctors can be misinformed. After all, I`m living reality with HSV-1 on my nipples as I type this, and I`ve heard a couple different doctors say that HSV can`t be spread unless you have a sore at the time. But I knew that wasn`t true before, however, I never knew it could cause sores on other places than your mouth or genitals. I`m mostly upset because I`ve always made decisions to try to limit my exposure to HSV, and stay "clean", not drinking out of friend`s drinks, and asking people I was considering being physical with if they got cold sores before we even kissed. I also started requiring my sexual partners to get tested for STD`s before we were physical, which I also did with this bf. I do know though, that you always risk HSV and HPV viruses since they don`t usually show symptoms, and clinics don`t automatically test for them unless you have a sore or wart. So I think a lot of people think they`re getting tested "for everything" when they go in asking to "get tested for STD`", but you need to be specific about which ones you ask for, and ask for a blood test for HSV, even if the doctor is hesitant, which in my experience they have been if you don`t have a sore, which I never did until now. I admittedly have gotten drunk and drank out of people`s drinks without thinking a time or two, and have shared pipes with people. So it seems like when you are infected with HSV-1, it`s hard to know when you first got it since it`s so common and so easy to get. It just seems so strange that I get the sores on my nipples, if I didn`t initially get it from my current bf. But I don`t know for sure I guess, we can only go by what`s likely, and try to move on. I don`t know if this will ruin my relationship with my bf or not, we`ve been fighting/in conflict or upset every time we`ve talked since this happened, but also started having conflict I think the day I noticed the other sores, but before I told him about them. Maybe these things are all aligned for a reason, I know it`s a learning experience for me no matter what, I guess I`m learning things aren`t so bad, but I am still very angry that I got it, especially on my nipples, but maybe that`s a "better" place. I`m concerned if I lubricate my fingers with my own saliva and put them in my vagina, or in that area that I`ll get sores on my genitals. I`m also concerned if my bf has it that he`ll give me sores on my genitals when we have oral sex, and that I`ll do the same to him now that I have it. It makes it hard for me to want to be sexual with anyone, I don`t feel sexy or "available" anymore. I think that will go away ( I HOPE that will go away) once I deal with this and get more information. It helps on one hand to know it`s so common but on another hand it`s angering and frustrating that you have to worry about it so much in the world. I feel no longer pure in a way, and now feel like I have a bad thing, and something bad to offer in a relationship, like I don`t even want to try to be in a relationship because it`s an awful thing, gross, painful, irritating, puts you out of commission for a while in a sense, and risky and just bad. It`s like, it would be nice to have my current bf be the one I stay with for the rest of my life, so we can deal together, but the way things are going it doesn`t seem like we`ll stay together. Who knows, we`re still very upset about all this and dealing with it very freshly--not a long time has passed. I look forward to reading others` experiences and am thankful that as many negative things that happen with this, there are equally if not more good things that can come out of it. One thing is that I feel more connected to strangers, like I have something special in common with people and can relate--although it`s really not that &special" since it`s so common :) Another positive is that it helps me really focus on me, and loving myself, showing that I am capable of loving myself and taking care of myself no matter what. And that I can depend on me when no one is around. My bf has not been very supportive lately, hasn`t offered to help me or take care of me or even ask if there is anything he can to do help me. That forebodes a break up to me since I recently (about a week ago) took care of him when he was sick and actually hospitalized for a tonsil infection. It seems if he creates this distance when things are bad, that`s not a good sign, despite the situation. But maybe that`s a common problem with relationships and STD`s. Maybe in time everything will be ok again. I hope my experience helps people and brings some sort of comfort or relief on some level. I find a little comfort knowing we aren`t alone, and that it`s ok not to know the answers to everything. Peace [46737]

Gender: F
Age: 22
Married: N
State: fl
Country: united states
Experience...
its always had telling your partner but its important to tell them one thing we have to realize is that you didnt get this way because one wantedd to be and that some one made a choice for you, i myself had that experience because a very close friend of mine decided not to tell me and gave me both types of herpes but theres always someone out there for you you just have to be patient and dont forget to take your meds cause it spreads through skin to skin contact! and just because you have this disease you dint have to settle and just because someone tells you its ok doesnt mean that they are clean also but it doesnt mean that they arent either so always keep an open eye and an open heart [46735]

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