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Gender: F
Age: 34
Married: N
State: CA
Country: USA
Experience...
I was just diagnoised with it. I have not had sex with anyone in nearly two years. then i meet this guy after about 4 months we decide to take the realtionship to another level. so while we were having oral sex i felt a something on his penis like a sore but i did not think anything of it. i just thought it was a hair bump or something. so we had sex evryday he was visiying me which was like 3 times a day for 10 ten days. and on the tenth day when we had sex it was burning and hurting veru badly and it would burn so bad when i used the bathroom i honestly though i was going to die, but we talked about it together and we are not going to let this reuion our realtionship I love him and he loves me and we are going to deal with it. im sure he has it to but he has not went to get checked yet but he will and we will still goon with our lives together. [46731]

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Gender: F
Age: 20
Married: N
State: nevada
Experience...
I`m 20 and was recently diagnosed with the virus i have vaginal and oral. at first i thought i had a reoccurring yeast infection, but then i had an outbreak on the side of my tongue it really hurt and was irritating so i went to the doc she told e it was herpes. I cried for about three 3 day then decided that`s life its a bitch then you die. but im not going to let the virus determine my life you can have a very healthy life with the virus. the guy that gave it to me doesn`t no he has it i would tell him but he lied to me saying he has been tested and doesn`t have anything which was a lie now seeing i have the virus so when he really decides to get tested he will find out. [46730]

Gender: F
Age: 38
Married: N
State: FL
Country: USA
Experience...
I am disgusted that the medical field, internet, and even sites like this one have allowed such a negative social stigma with the current research. Sex Ed classes scares people into thinking Herpes is only an STD, and it is not, and should not be treated as such! Most people will contract the virus sometime in thier lifetime, and most likely by someone that doesn`t even know they`re spreading it. Socially, only those of us unfortunate enough not to contract the virus as children on our mouths or lips are the ones being socially rejected. Those that have or have had fever blisters are exempt from this social stigma, yet they spread the virus just the same if not more easily. This virus is as contagious and prevelant as Mono, and should be treated as such by the organizations responsible for educating the public. We all have an 80%-90% chance of contracting the virus and will. The public needs to be educated about this and accept that fact, just like we have excepted that we all contract Mono (only some of us exhibit symptoms)! [46728]

Gender: F
Age: 21
Married: N
State: CA
Country: US
Experience...
I didn`t know I was infected with HSV1 until the doctor told me the results of my STD screening. It was scary but it`s so easy to deal with, it feels like a good learning experience :) [46726]

Gender: F
State: NJ
Experience...
Should not have happened to me. I am married for 5 years already. I am going to leave my husband and spend the rest of my life alone. I could not and would not pass this to someone it is not right. I hurt soooo much. Looking into ways to help myself. I hope there is a cure for this disease soon. [46725]

Gender: F
Age: 34
Married: Y
State: delhi
Country: india
Experience...
ulcer, pain & itching in lower portion [46720]

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Gender: F
Age: 38
Married: Y
State: ohio
Experience...
I had been married 13 yrs when I was diagnosed with herpes type 1 on my genitals. The doctor mentioned that that was the type usually found on the mouth.(cold sores) I immediately thought that my husband had cheated and my doctor gave me no other explanation. When I confronted my husband, he had sworn that it must had been me who cheated! I origianally went to the doctor because I thought I was having an allergic reaction to sanitary napkins! Imagine my suprise. This has taken quite a toll on our marriage. He finally got tested and his doctor says he doesn`t have the antibodies in his system. I know I was faithful!!! Now he has asked for a divorce. 17 yrs of marriage down the drain. Is there a separate test for type 1 and 2? Could I have been misdiagnosed? [46715]

Gender: F
Age: 23
Married: N
State: MD
Country: USA
Experience...
I AM A LIVING TESTIMONY THAT ANYONE CAN CONTRACT THIS DISEASE! I WOULD HAVE NEVER THOUGHT IN A MILLION YEARS THAT THIS COULD HAPPEN TO ME... WHY? I DIDN`T HAVE MANY PARTNERS AT THE TIME, I ALWAYS USED PROTECTION, I WAS ALWAYS CAREFUL ABOUT WHO I SLEPT WITH AND I WAS NOT A LOOSE WOMAN- ALL MY PARTNERS WERE RELATIONSHIPS! I MOVED TO AN AREA WHERE THERE WAS A VERY HIGH RATE OF STDs AND I DID NOT KNOW ABOUT THAT BECAUSE I WAS NOT FROM THAT PART OF TOWN NOR WAS I FROM THE STATE PERIOD. ANYWAY, I GOT INVOLVED WITH A MAN WHO HAD THIS DISEASE AND DIDN`T KNOW HE HAD IT (OR MAYBE HE DID AND JUST DIDN`T TELL ME, I DON`T KNOW) AND NOW I HAVE TO LIVE WITH IT FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE, I AM NOW A STATISTIC! I WASN`T SLEEPING AROUND, I WASN`T CARELESS, I JUST GOT INVOLVED WITH THE WRONG GUY, AT THE WRONG TIME AND AT THE WRONG PLACE. I THANK GOD EVERYDAY THAT HE DIDN`T GIVE ME HIV/AIDS BECAUSE HE COULD HAVE BUT DIDN`T! I JUST WANT PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND THAT THIS CAN HAPPEN TO ANYONE- NOT JUST CERTAIN PEOPLE. YOU CAN BE A VIRGIN, YOU CAN HAVE FEW PARTNERS, YOU CAN CHOOSE THEM WISELY AND PROTECT YOURSELF AND THIS STILL HAPPEN TO YOU. THE SAD PART IS THAT EACH PERSON THAT YOU SLEEP WITH YOU HAVE TO DISCLOSE THIS NATURE AND TAKE A VERY BIG CHANCE OF THEM WALKING AWAY; BUT WHAT I HAVE LEARNED SINCE CONTRACTING THIS DISEASE WHILE DATING IS THAT IF A PERSON CARES ABOUT YOU AND REALLY WANTS TO BE WITH YOU THEY ARE GOING TO BE RIGHT THERE NO MATTER HOW HARD THE SITUATION MAY BE, THEY WILL BE THERE- NOTHING WILL CHANGE! BUT STILL, IT IS SOMETHING VERY HARD TO DEAL WITH ESPECIALLY IF YOU DON`T HAVE IT AND IT IS A BURDEN FOR ANYONE WHO DOES HAVE IT. ONE THING IS FOR SURE, A LOT OF PEOPLE IN THE REAL WORLD NEED TO BE EDUCATED ON STDs BECAUSE THERE ARE A LOT OF IGNORANT PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO ARE IGNORANT TO DISEASES, ESPECIALLY HERPES. AS A MATTER OF FACT, HERPES WOULD NOT BE NEARLY AS BAD ON INDIVIDUALS WHO HAVE IT IF PEOPLE UNDERSTOOD IT MORE. BUT THAT`S THE WAY OF THE WORLD AND UNFORTUNATELY THERE IS NOTHING WE CAN DO ABOUT IT. FOR THE RECORD, I JUST WANT TO SAY TO THOSE INQUIRING, JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE HAS HERPES, THAT DOES NOT MEAN OFF THE BREAK YOU WILL CONTRACT IT FROM THEM, THAT IS CRAZY!! I DON`T CARE WHAT THE "SO CALL" FACTS ARE; THE TRANSMISSION OF THIS DISEASE SOLEMNLY DEPENDS ON BOTH PARTIES BODY!! THE IMMUNE SYSTEM PLAYS A TREMENDOUS ROLE IN THE TRANSMISSION OF HERPES!! SOME PEOPLE CAN EASILY CATCH IT, SOME PEOPLE CAN`T; IT REALLY DEPENDS ON THE BODY. MANY PEOPLE HAVE HAD THE VIRUS FOR YEARS AND YEARS AND HAVE NOT TRANSMITTED IT TO ANYONE (FROM THEIR KNOWLEDGE), SUCH AS MY SELF! ON THE OTHER HAND, SOME PEOPLE CAN CATCH IT AND TRANSMIT IT IN A HEARTBEAT, IT ALL DEPENDS. WHAT CRACKS ME UP WITH SOCIETY IS THAT THEY SEEM TO FORGET THAT EACH PERSON THEY SLEEP WITH GIVES THEM A FAIR CHANCE OF CONTRACTING HERPES AND MANY OTHER STDs BUT THEY THINK JUST BECAUSE THEY KNOW A PERSON HAS IT BECAUSE THEY WERE COURTEOUS ENOUGH TO ADMIT IT PUTS THEM AT A HIGHER RISK- NOT!! ACTUALLY THE REALITY IS BACKWARDS. IF YOU OPENLY KNOW THAT A PERSON HAS A STD SUCH AS HERPES YOU HAVE AMPLE OPPORTUNITY TO PROTECT YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DEALING WITH SO THAT LOWERS YOUR RISK VS YOU SLEEPING WITH A PERSON WHO MAY OR MAY NOT HAVE IT AND THEY NOT TELL YOU IF THEY DO SO YOU MY OR MAY NOT PROTECT YOURSELF PUTS YOU AT AN EVEN HIGHER RISK IF YOU ASK ME BECAUSE YOU ARE TAKING A CHANCE NOT REALLY KNOWING. ALSO, JUST BECAUSE YOU, YOURSELF DIDN`T CONTRACT AN STD FROM A PARTNER OR PAST PARTNERS DOES NOT MEAN THEY DON`T OR DIDN`T HAVE ONE, THAT JUST MEANS YOU DIDN`T CATCH IT. MY BEST ADVICE TO PEOPLE WHO HAVE HERPES IS TO LIVE YOUR LIFE! IT IS NOT AS BAD AS IT SEEMS AND IF ANYONE CARES ABOUT YOU AND LOVE YOU THEY ARE GOING TO BE WILLING TO BE THERE FOR YOU EVERY STEP OF THE WAY! THERE HAVE BEEN TIMES SINCE I HAVE CONTRACTED THIS DISEASE WHEN IT WAS THE FURTHEST FROM MY MIND BECAUSE I HAD BIGGER AND MORE COMPLICATED THINGS TO DEAL WITH, WHAT DOES THAT TELL YOU? IT`S NOT THE WORSE THING IN THE WORLD! FOR THOSE WHO DON`T HAVE HERPES, I HOPE THAT YOU WILL TAKE THIS FORUM INTO CONSIDERATION AND CONTINUE TO BE SAFE AND TRY TO EDUCATE YOURSELF MORE AND KEEP IN MIND THAT JUST LIKE IT HAPPENED TO ME AND SO MANY OTHERS IT CAN HAPPEN TO YOU TOO, EVEN IF YOU ARE CAREFUL!!! *WINK* [46698]

Gender: F
Age: 33
Married: N
Experience...
I subject myself to a lot of stress because of my condition. I am always paranoid about how I will be judged if I reveal my health status too early or too late. I have struggled with the "right time" to let someone know that I have the virus, especially when I first meet the person I`m dating. Should I say, "Hi my name is Jane and I have herpes?" Should I give them the opportunity to run for the hills before they get to know me? I`ve had the virus for 10 years and I feel that it has ruined my life. Most if that has been my fault because I`ve never coped with it in a healthy way. I have not been forthright with my partners and I hate myself for that. I have made the decision to be sexually active for them and it makes me feel despicable. I feel like I deserve every bad experience that I`ve encountered with this virus and the psychological and mental toll it`s had on my life. The pain of herpes itself pales in comparison to the emotional pain and hopelessness I have experienced. [46688]

Gender: F
Age: 27
Married: N
Experience...
I`m 27 and learned that I have herpes a little over year ago. I got it from my ex (monogomous relationship), even though we used a condom. When I got the results, I was devestated and confronted him. He didn`t seem too bothered by it, but agreed to go get tested. However, he never went back to get the results. That leads me to believe that he knew. Nevertheless, we maintained a relationship with a healthy sex life. However, he started becomig more and more abusive (verbally and physically) towards me. I`d had enough and decided to end the relationship recently. I mention the abuse because I put up with it because I have herpes, thinking that I am "tainted" and fearing rejection because of it. I`ve never shared it with anyone and still struggle with the shame. It`s scary to be back on the market having the virus, but I`ve let it control me for too long by being in an abusive relationship. I have come to terms with having the virus because it has not affected my life in any way (except emtionally); I just don`t want to give it to someone else. I honestly think that the virus is not a big deal, just the stigma associated with it. People get viruses all the time, but this one has a nasty stigma associated with it. Nevertheless, I`ve stepped out on faith believing that my life without him and having to explain this to my next lover is FAR better than being in an abusive relationship. I hope I`ve inspired someone to have the courage to live with it like I have. [46684]

Gender: F
Married:Y
State: WILAYAH PERSEKUTUAN KUALA
Country: MALAYSIA
Experience...
Paintful, itchcy, not comfortable.Paintful while pee.difficult to walking, stress, upset. [46680]

Gender: F
Age: 59
Married: N
State: FL
Country: USA
Experience...
I developed herpes around five years ago and I only get it on my buttocks. It has always been on only one side and in the same basic spot. However, this outbreak is much more wide-spread and on the other side. It does leave scars and when I have an outbreak it burns, itches and hurts. I don`t know how I got it but my dermatologist told me it`s a very common spot in women, although I`ve never heard of it. [46671]

Gender: F
Age: 20
Married: N
State: virginia
Country: usa
Experience...
It kills me to know that i have this disease and its my own fault for having unprotected sex. i caused this upon myself for being so reckless. ive never even had any symptoms or `outbreaks`.....ever. and i still dont. they just diagnosed me with it. so am i contagious? i dont even know.... [46669]

Gender: F
Age: 30
Married:N
State: NewJersey
Country: USA
Experience...
I contracted Genital Herpes in August 2008. At first I thought it was a genital wart outbreak because I was diagnosed with genital warts in 2000. I went to the doctor months later every month I would experience an episode and I was certain that it was a genital wart outbreak because I used to get them from time to time and then they would just go away without treatment. However, when I went to the doctor I told them that I have genital warts outbreaks and she took a look at it the very first outbreaks and said it looked like warts and prescribed me aldara at the time I was taking the aldara and it did nothing I was then taking condylox and nothing also podifilox and TCA. I thought my immune system was weakened that`s why it didn`t help but that was not the case. Later on I experienced a very large infected sore that drained with fluid and when I went to the clinic for it she told me that it looks like herpes I was in denial and refused to take the medication because I thought it was warts which it wasn`t. I was devastated when the results came back. I was under alot of stress which seems to me made the outbreaks even worse. I had outbreaks for two years before I realised it was genital herpes. However I have been taking acyclovir for about a month in a half. I haven`t seen any outbreaks since August but every now and then I experience itching and tenderness in the vaginal area as of right now I am experiencing itching all over my body every now and then could this be a symptom of the virus. I have ben experiencing this for a couple of days now and I just stopped taking suppressive theraphy about a week ago. However, when I first started having outbreaks I was scared as well as embarrased to explain it to my boyfriend I had an I idea he would be understanding and then I thought that he would be terrified that I passed this to him but at the time I was so sure that it was genital warts. I waited 6 months before I told him a I was very scared because I didn`t know what to expect when I told him it was on New Years and we were about to be intimate I sure picked a fine time to tell him but I couldn`t hold this any longer he was very understanding and he didn`t judge me. I was so glad to get this off my chest what a relief. However, when I did find out I had genital Herpes I accused him for passing the virus to me. I told him I had genital herpes and asked him do he have it and was he messing around with anyone and he told me no and said that everybody has genital herpes cold sores and things like that. But he was not really to interested in talking about the condition. He also told me his sexual history with previous partners but I was more so concerned about the virus and if I contracted it from him or if I passed it to him and he seem to be fine at ease with what I was explaining to him. At the time we were lying in bed and he still wanted to be intimate with me I was somewhat suprised because I thought that he wouldn`t want to after hearing about genital herpes. [46659]

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